Google + and Facebook both present an interesting question to us eventually; what do we do when we are asked to (or already have) friend someone we’d really rather not have amongst our friends.
Blocking a user is rather extreme, and often, I don’t want to take the chance that someone might find out I blocked them. Often I have trouble with people who are too verbose, posting 30 tech articles a day that I have no interest in reading. Other times I friend people I haven’t seen in 20 years, and the first post I get is “Check out this deal!” (and so is the second, third and fourth…). Then again, there are the folks who send endless Farmville or Mafiawars requests.
Here is how to remove that stuff so you never see it again, and how you can do it without annoying someone who you might actually need to deal with again in the real world.
Removing Mafiawars and Farmville Requests
- The next time you get a request from one of these (or any other app that posts directly to a Facebook wall) click in the main field of the message.
- You will see a gray box appear at the right side of the post. Click that.
- Select “hide all by <Mafiawars, Farmville or whatever app you want to remove> (or just hide the user)
The Leper Colony
If you don’t mind the offending user seeing some of your posts in Google + you can create a “Leper Colony” list/circle. This works very nicely to allow you to block certain users from seeing certain posts, looking at your photos, etc.
In Google +:
- Go to circles
- Create a circle called “Leper Colony” or something like “Unknown”
- Drag and drop offending users into that circle. Do not leave them in any other circles.
- Now they will only see public posts…so be careful what you post publicly.
Facebook:
While Facebook used to support privacy rights by friends lists (the sublists you can create from your “manage friends” page, I was surprised to find that this feature has gone away. You can either “hide <username>” as outline in the Mafiawars section above, or you will need to block them. Way to go Facebook…changing privacy settings…again, without letting me know.
The Golden Rule
The big thing with all social media is this: never, ever, rely on the systems privacy settings. If you don’t want someone to see something, then you better not post it. Ever…
Think of it this way: Google has a very, very long memory. Even of the stuff you’ve deleted. Merely sanitizing your own Facebook profile or Google + account before you fire off that resume for that dream position at Acme Inc. doesn’t mean they won’t find those pictures of you doing belly shots off an Asian Hooker when you were college. What happens in Vegas will most certainly dog you all your days if your boneheaded frat bro tags you in a pic that shows you wearing a diaper and drinking been our of a baby bottle during initiation.

I’ve had the opportunity over the years to work with some real first class web designers. People like Mark Hentschel, Jill Cole and Bill Hall, just to name a few. Unfortunately, there have also been a bunch on the other side who’ve billed themselves as web designers and weren’t…so here’s a list off the warning signs that you’re dealing with a web designer who isn’t a web designer.
Okay, I’ve used Google + for a couple days now which makes me utterly qualified to render summary judgement on it.
It’s been a long time since I posted. I’ve been wrapped up in endless development cycles, dealing with real world stuff and generally had way too much going on to have the time to deposit any gems of wisdom on you. Of course, that presupposes that at this point, I do. Which I do not…
15 months upgrading from Php 4 and Mysql4 to the latest versions. This was a project previous engineers had been tasked with. Some ran screaming out of the building. None seriously attempted it. For us it only happened because our Senior Architect Brian Kirsten was smart enough to know it was possible, and because I was too dumb to say “no way.”
This piece is in honor of the most under appreciated among us, the assholes.
I got a bill today, or rather a receipt for a purchase already completed, from iTunes. $20.93 for a variety of $.99 transactions. Strange, as I haven’t bought anything lately.